We are commanded to love God to the utmost in this week’s Torah portion, Va-etchanan (Deuteronomy 3:23-7:11). This command is a key moment in the Shema section of Jewish evening and morning prayer services, which quotes Deuteronomy 6:4-6:9. The prayer begins with the famous line:
Shema Yisrael, Adonai Eloheynu, Adonai echad!
Listen, Israel: Y-H-V-H is our God; Y-H-V-H is one! (Deuteronomy/Devarim 6:4. See my post Va-etchanan: Only One.)
This is immediately followed by:
Ve-ahavta God, your God, with all your levav and with all your nefesh and with all your me-od. (Deuteronomy/Devarim 6:5)
ve-ahavta (וְאָהַבְתָּ) = And you must love. (The noun ahavah, אַהֲבָה = love.)
levav (לְבָב) = heart; mind (including thoughts and emotions).
nefesh (נֶפֶש) = soul, desire, being, life.
me-od (מְאֺד) = very, much; very much, very far.
Many translations of this verse turn me-od into a noun meaning “power”, “might”, or “possessions”. But in every other appearance of the word in the Hebrew Bible (except for 2 Kings 23:25, which is a direct quote of Deuteronomy 6:5), me-od is an adjective meaning “very” or “much”, or an adverb meaning “very much” or “very far”.
Ibn Ezra wrote: “It means that you should love Him to the utmost in any way that you are able. Your heart should be totally committed to the love of God.”1
How can one love God with one’s whole mind, one’s whole being, to the utmost? What does it even mean to love God?
The Chassidic rabbi Nachum Twersky wrote: “Indeed, Y-H-W-H has commanded us to love Him. But how is this possible at all, since God’s nature cannot be known? For this reason God gave us … a this-worldly reality that would serve as an example through which we could understand the truth behind it.”2
Twersky advised shifting from the love of sensual pleasures such as eating, drinking, and sex to loving God. But in the Hebrew Bible, the verb ahav (אָהַב) and noun ahavah are used far more often for loving other human beings than for loving pleasurable activities. Can we love God the way we love a human being?
The Hebrew Bible includes many examples of humans loving other humans: the ahavah between a father and his son, between lovers or spouses, and between fast friends. Some servants love their masters. The Torah also urges us to love others as we love ourselves (see below).
If love is a feeling, then loving God might mean experiencing a state of oneness with God, or a passionate obsession with God, or a deep longing for God. If love is about what we do rather than what we feel, then loving God might mean acting with loyal obedience, or with unselfishness.
Love as oneness
The first verse of the prayer states: “Y-H-V-H is one!”. This could mean that there is only one god, but it could also mean that God is oneness: the unity of everything in existence.
Two human beings have separate bodies and separate thoughts. But sometimes each one feels a deep connection and continuity with the other. This experience of love as oneness can happen between life partners, or between a parent and baby. It is not a continuous experience, but it does recur.
It is also possible to feel a deep connection with everything in existence. Many people consider this an experience of God. For that moment, they felt one with God, a part of God. I have had a few such moments in my lifetime, and I felt awe. But to some people, it feels like love.
An experience of oneness with God or the universe is fleeting. Can this transitory feeling be maintained after the moment is over?
In the 19th century, Hirsch wrote: “All your thoughts and emotions, all your wishes and aspirations, and all your possessions shall be regarded by you only as means for attaining closeness to God, for bringing God near to you; this shall be their sole value to you.”3
If it were possible to be continuously conscious of God, would that result in a continuous feeling of oneness? And would that be the utmost love for God?
Love as passonate obsession
Thinking about God every conscious minute sounds like an obsession.
Rambam wrote that passionate obsession can be increased with practice: “What is suitable love? To love God with an exceedingly great and very intense love until one’s soul is knit with the love of God and one is constantly obsessed by it. As in a state of love-sickness, in which the mind cannot be diverted from the beloved, the love is constantly obsessed by his love, lying down or rising up, eating or drinking.”4
The words “lying down or rising up” appear two verses later in the prayer from this week’s Torah portion:
And you must impress them [God’s words] upon your children, and you must speak of them when you are sitting in your house and when you are walking on the way, and when you are lying down and when you are rising up. (Deuteronomy 6:7)
Pekudah wrote: “What does the love of God consist of? The soul’s complete surrender of its own accord to the creator in order to cleave to His supernal light … then it will become completely preoccupied with His service and have no place for any other thought …”5
This surrender must be passionate. Chayim ibn Attar said that it must be more intense than sexual desire.
“It is assumed that the average man feels drawn to any woman, especially if the woman in question is pretty. The word ‘with all’ refers to the more intense desire one displays for a beautiful woman. In one’s relationship to God … one has only fulfilled the Torah’s commandment if one can honestly say that one loves Him more intensely than any woman.”6
Falling in love, hard, combines intense sexual desire with ardent devotion. But these conditions are temporary, and only when they fades do humans make thoughtful choices about the object of their passion. Can we choose to enter into a state of passionate obsession with God? Can we maintain it? Would that be the utmost love for God?
Love as longing
Other commentators have considered the longing for union with God the deepest form of love. Rambam wrote: “When man contemplates His works and His wonderful, great creatures and fathoms through them His inestimable and boundless wisdom, he will immediately love, and praise, and exalt, and will be seized by a keen longing passion to know Him …”7
The Chassidic movement among eastern European Jews in the 18th century placed a high value on longing for union with God. Rabbi Alter of Ger wrote:
“This means one should want nothing but God. … Even if it is hard for us to imagine fulfilling ‘with all your heart,’ we should still have that willful longing to reach it at all times. For it is through this longing that gates open in the human heart.”8
It is possible to induce or magnify a feeling of longing. But is constant longing the utmost love for God?
Love as loyal obedience
When the book of Deuteronomy was written, perhaps in the 7th century B.C.E., the word ahavah, “love”, could also mean loyalty. Treaties that called for vassals to love their overlords with all their heart meant that the vassals must be totally loyal.
This definition of love provides one answer to the question “How can love be commanded?” Our emotions may not be entirely under our own control, but we can freely choose, over and over again, to act with loyalty. We can choose to remain committed to a spouse or obedient to a boss even if our desires pull us in another direction.
Similarly, we can choose to remain committed to our religion and obedient to God’s commands in the Torah—even if it kills us, as in this story from the Talmud:
“One time, after the bar Kokheva rebellion, the evil empire of Rome decreed that Israel may not engage in the study and practice of Torah. Pappos ben Yehuda came and found Rabbi Akiva, who was convening assemblies in public and engaging in Torah study. … When they took Rabbi Akiva out to be executed, it was time for the recitation of Shema. And they were raking his flesh with iron combs, and he was reciting Shema … His students said to him: Our teacher, even now, as you suffer, you recite Shema? He said to them: All my days I have been troubled by the verse: With all your soul, meaning: Even if God takes your soul. I said to myself: When will the opportunity be afforded me to fulfill this verse? Now that it has been afforded me, shall I not fulfill it?”9
But later commentators pointed out that loyalty and obedience can come from fear as well as love. Rashi wrote that obeying God’s commands out of loyal love is better than obeying God out of fear. “He who serves his master out of fear, if he (the master) troubles him overmuch, leaves him and goes away.”10
Bachya ben Asher wrote: ““The point of “loving God” is to perform His commandments out of a sense of love for Him. If someone serves the Lord out of fear, his service is not of the best variety. The way this love for God expresses itself is by our studying the laws of the Torah and by obtaining a better understanding of what God expects from us through such study. As a result of such study we will enjoy having gained deeper insights of what the Lord wants from us.”11
If someone today is utterly committed to obeying God’s commands in the Torah, does this count as loving God?
Love as unselfishness
Love is also an action rather than a feeling when we unselfishly promote someone else’s welfare. Loving parents make what is good for their children a priority. Loving partners set aside some selfish desires to help the other and to make the relationship the priority.
This way of loving is implied in the commands: “And you must love your fellow as yourself” (Leviticus 19:18), “The immigrant who resides with you, you must love him as yourself” (Leviticus 19:34), and “You must love the immigrant, because you were immigrants in the land of Egypt” (Deuteronomy 10:19).
The Torah does not ask us to be compassionate toward God. But some selfish desires can be sacrificed in order to do what we believe God wants. According to Sforno, “… you will then enjoy doing things which are pleasing to Him, when you understand that there is nothing in this world which is more worth doing.”12
Can this view of love as giving the other priority over one’s selfish desires be applied to God? And does it count as loving God?
When I say the Shema, then read “And you must love God with all your mind, and with all your being, and with all your utmost”, my immediate thought is that it’s too hard. I just don’t have the inner means to do it—whether I define love as an experience of oneness, or a passionate obsession, or deep longing, or acting with loyal obedience, or unselfishly putting God first.
Yet I have loved a few human beings in all of those ways. Perhaps I would be able to follow the commandment to love God if I believed in an anthropomorphic god. Yet even if I did, I cannot imagine loving God—or any human being, for that matter—every waking minute.
What can I do? I can contemplate the wonders of the universe, of which I am a part. I can sing prayers with feeling, embracing passion and longing. I can commit to a leading a moral life, according to a code with roots in the Torah but details provided by my own conscience. And, I believe, I can serve God by being kind and unselfish with other human beings. That is the utmost I am able do to love God. But does it count?
- 12th-century rabbi Avraham ibn Ezra, translation in www.sefaria.org.
- Menahem Nahum Twersky of Chernobyl, Me-or Eynayim, 1798, translated by Arthur Green, Speaking Torah, vol. 2, Jewish Lights Publishing, Woodstock, VT, 2013, p. 96.
- 19th century rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, The Hirsch Chumash: Sefer Devarim, Feldheim Publishers, Jerusalem, 2009, p. 110.
- Rambam (the acronym of 12th century rabbi Moshe ben Maimon, also known as Maimonides), Teshuva, quoted by Nehama Leibowitz, Studies in Devarim, translated by Aryeh Newman, World Zionist Organization, 1980, p. 67.
- Bachya ibn Pekudah, 1050-1120 CE, Duties of the Heart, quoted by Leibowitz, ibid., p. 68.
- 18th-century rabbi Chayim ibnAttar, Or HaChayim, translation in www.sefaria.org.
- Rambam, Yesodey Ha-Torah, quoted by Leibowitz, ibid., p. 66.
- Rabbi Yehudah Leib Alter of Ger, Sfaat Emet, 1808, translated by Arthur Green, The Language of Truth, Jewish Publication Society, 1998.
- Talmud Bavli, Berakhot 61b, translation by Adin Even-Israel Steinsaltz, The William Davidson Talmud, in www.sefaria.org.
- Rashi (the acronym of 11th-century rabbi Shlomoh Yitzchaki), translation in www.sefaria.org.
- 14th century rabbi Bachya ben Asher, translation in www.sefaria.org.
- 16th-century rabbi Ovadiah Sforno, translation in www.sefaria.org.
















